It smells different...new...like fresh cut grass…
..like warm laundry after the dryer!
...like baked cookies straight outta the oven!
That’s the sweet, sweet smell of change.
As a Leadership Coach, change is everywhere around me. In fact, it’s my job to actively advocate and exercise my ability to change.
What does that mean?
Well, my clients don’t enter into a coaching relationship to stay in their current status quo.
They want change so badly, nay, they need change so badly, they’re ready to invest in powerful support to help them do things they’ve never done before.
To help them do that, I have to be willing do the same, because I can only take my clients deeper than I have gone and am willing to go.
As a result of building the “muscle” and tolerance to change, I have lived an extraordinary life thus far, am excited to take risks that energize me and continue to advance in my fulfillment in helping Women of Color grow their leadership.
Here are some of the incredible changes some of my clients made in 2019 so far:
One took the leap to leave her soul-crushing office job, and start the freelancing business of her dreams
Another was finally promoted into a leadership role, with an opportunity to hire and run her own team
Two are starting new jobs at a 20%+ increase in pay, and a clear path for career growth that energizes them
Two are doing the hard and often uncomfortable work to heal their relationships with their parents, as adult children
The common theme between all of these dope, incredible people?
They were ALL afraid of change.
They ALL believed that achieving these things were next to impossible.
They were ALL afraid of failure, rejection and pain.
And, they ALL did the work.
What’s the work? To be brave. To change from the inside out and take care of any internal blockers that stopped them from even moving forward. To take the first steps in resonant action, despite all their fears and worries. To learn how to handle failure.
To keep doing the work over and over again.
Now, here’s a secret: The willingness and ability to change your life starts as a choice and becomes a series of actions.
You can’t just say, “I want the lawn to be cut, I want my laundry to be done and I want freshly baked cookies in my mouth, universe!” and expect it to magically get done that second (trust me, I’ve asked the universe for a million dollars a million times and it still hasn’t delivered).
The reality is if you don’t outsource that work (I mean, it is 2019, I’m sure y’all can just download an app to do a lot of this on-demand), you have to get out the lawn mower, mow that lawn and dispose of the freshly cut grass.
You have to get up, sort through your stinky laundry, do the wash, wait, load the dryer, wait, fold the clothes and put them away.
You have to buy the ingredients or “cheat” with some pre-made cookie dough and make those MF-ing cookies!
Now, a lifelong dream like opening the sustainable fashion line bubbling inside of you, starting a blog that will change lives or reaching a six-figure salary sounds like a lot more work -- because it is. It’s much more work than making cookies.
But, before you preemptively opt out of the work to chase those big, juicy goals of yours, I encourage you to consider:
What changes do I want in my life?
What’s stopping me from changing the thing?
What would happen if I don’t change a damn thing?
Lastly, what support do I have?
Often times, even if you make the choice, it’s hard to start when you feel like you’re alone on this journey of change.
My clients know the power of asking for help. As growing leaders, they’re high performing and successful on their own, and understand how much more powerful and effective they are when they’re supported.
Support can look like many things: your friends, familia and colleagues, or claiming a mentor who has done what you want to do, or investing in a coach to experience the unique magic of having an observer with a bird’s eye view of your strengths, blind spots and new options for you to choose from.
So, here are some quick take aways to have the sweet, sweet smell of change as your new perfume:
Make the choice
Do the work
...and may be celebrate your start with some fresh, warm cookies! (Actually, definitely celebrate with some fresh, warm cookies!)
P.S. Interested in support on making some big ol’ changes in your life? I got you, girl. Sign up for a free Clarity Session with me.